Starting the Journey to Freedom

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Your sexual behavior is causing shame and pain in your life.  It could be pornography, an affair, or other compulsive sexual behaviors.  Hebrews 12:2 calls us to “throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles and run with perseverance the course marked out for us.” The call here is to run the course, live the life, find the true fulfillment, lean into the destiny that is yours. We are hindered in this endeavor by many things. Unhealthy sexuality, though, has a unique power to captivate the human soul and numb us into a life of mediocrity.

God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love between a husband and wife.  But unhealthy sexuality robs us of deep intimacy in relationship and pushes us into feelings of emptiness and despair. We desperately pursue the next orgasm as if that’s the only thing that matters.  Healthy sexuality is so much more satisfying than that.

If you desire to experience your sexuality in a new, healthy way, you must be willing to start a new journey. This new start includes:

Believing it’s Possible
You have to believe the destination is real. If you are hopeless about ever getting there, you must enlist a trusted guide (the right minister, sponsor, or therapist) who has taken others where you want to go. The Journey to Freedom is sometimes slow but if you are sure you’re headed in the right direction, and are resolute, you will make it.

 Accepting Help
An East African proverb states, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” This is a journey you cannot succeed in alone. James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to one another, pray for one another, that you may be healed.” Specialized therapy groups at RCA Counseling are an ideal way to maximize the opportunity for success. We offer flexible rates for those who cannot afford the standard fees. See the books and resources below also.

Counting the Cost
Hardships, setbacks, and failings are part of the journey. When traveling through treacherous territory one must be ready for suffering and difficulties. Another African proverb says, “Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.” God uses the journey itself and the relationships that are built along the way to form deep character, enabling us to live life very differently.  Jesus went through his suffering and death to empower us on our journey of new life. What are you waiting for? Let’s get started.

Pure Desire by Ted Roberts  For Christian men struggling with sexual unhealthiness.

The Porn Trap by Wendy and Larry Maltz   Research on how porn damages relationships.
Secular book with excellent last half for couples recovery.

Not “Just Friends” by Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D.  Rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after infidelity.
Secular book with real guidance for healing. Doesn’t just describe the problem.

No Stones by Marnie Ferree.  Christian book for women sex addicts.

Parables For Personal Growth by Melinda Reinicke  Healing through parables and reflective explorations.  Available from   Watch the Dragon Parable

Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey by Richard Blankenship
Very practical Christian book for wives. A betrayed husband’s story is also included.

Websites  Secular site for men on the damage & recovery from porn  The best Christian site on sexual integrity help for the whole family  Christian site for spouses of sex addicts

Professional Counseling  Individual, marital and group counseling. We have offices in Mission Valley, Carlsbad and Rancho Bernardo.  619 298-8722 x101  Therapy groups for men struggling with pornography or sexual addiction.   Therapy groups for their spouses. Workshops for couples. Sexual addiction intensives.

Support Groups
Christian Church-based Support Groups  – For Christian men pursuing sexual integrity, spouses of sex addicts, and women pursuing sexual integrity.      619 298-8722×140
 Sexaholics Anonymous –      Sex Addicts Anonymous —